Valentine special: Where the mind is without fear

I am a true believer of that everyday is a day of love but the occasions such as Valentine’s day hold importance to spice up your relationship from the boring monotonous life. It can distract one from the issue in their relationship. It also rekindle passion between two people. This day gives people the chance to express their feelings to their loved ones.

pensitdown.com6Love is immortal. It never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds, it dies of weariness, of withering, of tarnishing.

Somebody is talking about marketing gimmick like shopping, buying expensive gifts, giving tips for staying fit, imparting the idea to get valentine special ringtones, also zero in on relationship. But I will talk about “Where the mind is without fear”.

You must be trying to recollect something from flashback. No, then I will tell you, remember during your academic period you must have gone through the profound poem by Rabinder Nath Tagore i.e “Where the mind is without fear”. In the poem Tagore was messaging about the freedom of the nation. He sketched the idea, where everyone within the fold of humanity is free to hold up one’s voice to be heard without having any tension of fear of oppression restricted by narrow ideas and loyalties. If Tagore can keep such a pious feeling towards humanity and love then why we 21st century people is far behind in it.

Let me justify the title

You must be thinking in valentine special post why I am drawing your attention for all that. I may have taken this title from the poem and will merge it with the feeling of love. Dear reader let me explain if you will see from my eyes there is a deep connection between the title of the post and the love. Where the mind is without fear is directly proportional to the feeling of love and the feeling of love is directly proportional to the feeling of freedom.

Word shrinks for Love

This four letter word has been explained by many experts, specialist and poet. Its very subjective and the collection of endless word is not even sufficient to explain this word. It carries different meaning for different people.

According to me, as the title suggest love is a kind of freedom is to be what you really are, that ensure you to be yourself and especially to feel, or not feel. Love is the feeling where fear has no power and the fear of freedom vanishes and not present even a iota. The mind without fear is called love.

  •  It is a tender, passionate affection for another person.
  • A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection as for parent, child, siblings and for spouse.

 pensitdown.com4I say this to you now: I love you with no beginning, no end. I love you because you have become an extra necessary organ in my body. I love you as only a girl could love a boy. Without fear. Without expectations. Wanting nothing in return, except that you allow me to keep you here in my heart, that I may always know your strength, your eyes, and your spirit that gave me freedom and let me fly.

Now, while it is certainly the time of year to be showering your loved ones not only with gifts to couples, families, friends on Valentine’s Day. But also add new dimension to your relationship.

All blood relation is generally easy going not come across with many terms and conditions. But when it comes to the couple or spouse you encounter lot of complications and end up suffering umpteen times.

Therefore Valentine’s Day is a good medium to restore the spark that you have for your partner rusted inside or the couple who know all the tricks to spice up their relation.

The key ingredients for the spouse

Friendship, Friendship and Friendship. Relationship Expert says that “Friendship is the glue that can hold a marriage together or love relation together. It is the best thing that keep the relation alive. Good relationship with your spouse is the sign of bliss from all sources. Harmony in relation creates positivity, calmness, fearlessness and gives you sense of self-sufficient and authority.

pensitdown.com1Love is the voice under the silences, the hope which has no opposite in fear; the strength so strong mere force is feebleness: the truth more first than sun, more last than star..

Here I want to share few points which keep your mind without fear, when in love or when in healthy relationship.

Fear of sharing anything with your spouseThe openness plays a vital role between the spouse. Generally most partner thinks that the latter should not know what they are thinking, thus escaping discussion with the feeling of fear in mind which is big dont’s. The couple should make him/her so comfortable that they should not even hide any worst matter to each other. Their compatibility should have strong volume so that they can indulge in their parents condemn even respectively(smile).

Fear of being good listener– You know half of the problem get solved regardless of the couple is right or wrong when you be a good listener. But its tough to abide when the difference of thought do not let them do the same. There are certain kind of insecurity or fear develop for listening the views of your spouse. The myth does not allow the spouse to listen the latter, if they do so the partner always trying to dominate other side. That germs of fear always kill the relationship.

Fear of being complained Sometimes your partner become so irksome and always come with complains for the petty things is very fierce. Don’t you fear the atmosphere where you encounter your partner attacking with his harsh and poor words. Remember always people love to remain with those who stay positive in his/her action. The couple should nurture their strong bond rather than loosening the string of bond.

Fear of being hurtWhen the complain become out of room talk is called hurt. Suppose your spouse try to humiliate you in front of everyone to show his/her supremacy is not acceptable at all. Try to be careful and maintain the secrecy of your partner.

The feeling of fear will deteriorate the appreciation of your partner presence. Don’t set any do’s and don’ts in the relationship. As it is not rocket science or we are not robot just a human. Our religion is not ‘bible’ and ‘quran’ but the humanity. Build a healthy bond via handling it lovingly and softly. Here my intention is not to remind the bad momentum of relationship but to educate you to implant a deep connection between the couple.

pensitdown2Every breath I take should be heard by you only, my breath is your breath , my secret is your secret, my longing is your longing, but my death bed is my destiny only.

Over to you

Valentine’s Day is a day of celebration . It does not necessarily demand buying expensive gifts or roses. Lets gift a promise to each other instead of being in a state of fear, where two hearts will be free-spirited as I always say where the mind is without fear i.e in the state of love.


I love to embrace your opinion..     

Shiwaangi Srivastava

This is shiwaangi srivastava, brand accelerator, social media expert, and a fashion and lifestyle blogger. Worked with many brands and part of many campaigns, app reviews, collaborations. Travel is her passion and got her professional edge in her passion. Find me on Google+


  1. Wow Shiwangi,

    This Valentine special post is really so much special and informative. By sharing this post you made “Valentine’s promise day” more loveable and momentous.

    I thoroughly enjoyed this amazing article. thank you so much for this lovely share. Keep writing magically 🙂

    1. Hey Amit,

      The word Valentine and love are very intriguing subject to write and read as well.
      Regardless of nice post this two words are sufficient to arrest the attention of the reader. That is the reason why I thought to pen my views for the love through taking advantage of the sensitive occasion like Valentine’s Day.

      Thanks for giving your valuable feedback and do always come for sharing your views.

      1. Yes, you are right Shiwangi ji This topic is so interesting that no one can leave it before read.

        1. Hi Jasmeet,

          Welcome to my blog first time visit. I am glad you response my post this way. I am looking forward to get more response from your side for my upcoming post. keed coming and add more value via comment.

  2. Shivangi,

    I agree with you everything written here, valentines day is not to mean gifting expensive things, its a day to celebrate the most valuable love between each other.

    Thanks to the article.

    1. Hey Naveen,

      Gifts has always its speciality as well. When someone love you and expressed his/her feeling through giving you something precious is always welcome. But if not received there are 100 ways to add value to your bond.

      Thanks for coming and giving your feedback.

  3. The fear factor is what many rely upon but this is one post which has left a lot to be desired.


    1. Hey Emmanuel,

      Yes, Fear has many faces at the various level like in personal and professional life and also in the form of crime victim.

      I want to ask why there is existence of fear in relationship. This is the single aspect where you feel protected, what if people are not safe in this bond of love. Relationship is for being caring not for interrogation.
      Thanks for coming and keep coming for the encouragement.

  4. very nice write-up Shiwangi 🙂

    I read your whole post and agree with your views that we should make some promise to make the relationship better.

    I trust love and it have some power. I am happy to say that valentine day is my daughter’s b’day and so we cut cake and arrange get together for her every year 🙂

    Keep writing!

    1. Hi Nirmala,
      Nice to know your heart your daughter came in life on the hearty eve Valentine’s Day.
      Glad to learn that you go through whole post that means a lot.

      I also believe if you are sharing very nice bond with each other than you can overcome all problems and problems cannot be more powerful than the love and the promises.

      Also thanks for cementing our relationship more through supporting and being caring for my activities. Keep coming dear.

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  6. Feels good that there are still some people like you who believe each day is a day of love and not confined to just one day.

    1. Hi,

      Yup true that everyday is a day of love, hope you feel the same.
      I believe that you have to strive daily to make your relation healthy and make it lovely.
      Thanks for coming first time and keep coming.

      Have a nice weekend.

  7. Hey Shiwangi thanks for sharing your delicate thoughts and observations on one of the most beautiful relationships of this world on the cute occasion of Valentine’s Day.
    I personally observed that the couples who really believe in long-term relationship don’t enjoy it simply but also equally give time to keep strengthening it. A bonding without care can’t work for a longer period of time. Just enjoyment and fun is not enough to build a palace in the heart of your partner. For that you need strong foundation of loyalty, unbreakable bricks of love & care and most importantly never-collapsing roof of mutual understanding to adjust and stay happy with each other.
    Once again a huge thank you for the honest analysis of the topic. Stay blessed and keep smiling.

    1. Hi Mi Muba,

      I match your thought. You know spouse bond is a lifetime togetherness if the validity is good (smile).
      But this is the relation we encounter lot of complication and if it is functioning properly then no relation is better than this.

      Partner carries multiple spice and charm like motherhood care, sister attitude and deep friendship bond which keeps the relation alive. Its true that we should be prompt for building strong foundation for the most entertaining relationship of the earth.

      Thanks for visiting first time and steal your time for the posting long comment.
      Keep coming and have a great day.

  8. This is really very WONDERFUL Post for Valentine special! I loved it 🙂 It’s great explanation for Valentine special mind is without fear !!!

    1. Hi Disha,

      Its wonderful to see you here again and dropping such a commendable statement.
      I did compare love with a mind without fear because there are lot of spouse leading their life with certain boundaries which is almost like being in prison.

      See we live with a partner in a sweet home and as you know as well home is where the heart is.
      Therefore relationship compatibility should be boundariless. Don’t you discover the same.

      Hey keep coming and stay tuned for lot more.

  9. Agree with your views mam.
    nice article really..

    1. Hi Kapil,

      Thanks for your appreciable feedback.
      I hope You will keep reading my article as I will keep writing for you all.
      Stay tuned and stay blessed.

  10. Hello maam,
    Thanks for sharing such an amazing article on valentine’s day. I really loved it. Generally, people write for making money but I see that you have written this article by heart. Thanks again. 🙂

    Have a great day.

    1. Hey Nikhil,

      Thanks for visiting my blog first time.
      It is a nice feeling when someone approve your dedication with the true admiration.
      Keep coming as always I want to listen from you.

      Have a lovely weekend.

  11. Hi Shiwangi,

    That was very well written and so very true 🙂

    We sometimes need reminders like Valentine’s Day to talk on such issues, and just as you mentioned, Tagore’s poem, which most of us have read in school, fits in well here.

    Love is fearless, and when you are in love, it should be without the fear of any kind. If there is fear in your relationship, whether you are single or married, that isn’t a true love relationship. You need to work out on the odds and make constant efforts to strengthen the bond with your loved one, and it does work if you are patient, understanding, and work for it.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice weekend 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena mam,

      Valentine day is the best way to refresh and renew the bond. In day to day life we people are so trapped that we are not pulling together well in our relationship. To cement our bond we need to focus on daily exercise to shape up the relation.

      Its very insane when we see the existence of fear with the love still persist in human being.
      What we need to do is to abide the shun attitude for our respective mistakes. But at the same time love should prevail in the heart of two.

      Its a great feeling to see you again to my blog.
      Thanks for your insight. Have a nice day.

  12. Hi Shiwangi,

    This is really a refreshing post. I love you blog, you always write unusual stuff . Love the title, “Mind without Fear”. Keep sharing the great content.

    1. Hi Himanshu,

      I am glad that you feel this way about my post. Keep coming and lift my spirit through your commendable words.
      Have a nice weekend.

  13. Hi Shiwangi, This is one of the most lovable post I read on this valentine. Awesome piece of writing. We should not restrict ourselves to celebrate our love only on valentine but everyday should be of Love. Keep writing such posts.

    1. Hi John,

      I was awaiting your comment as you are a regular visitor of my blog. You made my day through coming back to me.
      Yes everyday is a day of love the thing we need to take into consideration is to keep sparkle alive in heart for sustaining the bond. Valentine’s day demands some special way to say you care which is also healthy way to keep the spirit alive.

  14. beautiful write-up…loved every bit of it

    1. Hey Garima,
      Welcome to my blog and my finger is crossed for your first visit to often visit.

  15. I missed this post but now read and enjoyed a lot. How wonderfully you have written. Hatts off as how you have connected 2 different things to each other. really its a great read indeed.

    1. Hey Shaily,

      Where had you been I awaited your response as you are my regular reader.
      Yup I really love to interconnect two different things and its a mind game which I love to play.
      Hope you will keep coming and enrich my blog with your throw which I was missing deeply.

  16. Hello Shiwangi mam

    I know I am quite late while posting this comment but after reading this post I can’t resist myself from commenting to this..

    Love is the most beautiful feeling in this world and even the title is more eye catching..!!! You proved the face that we have to write for readers no for search engines…!!!

    Thanks for sharing such an awesome post mam


    1. Hey Sakshi,

      Better late than never, the important thing is that you steal your precious time for commenting to my post.
      Yup Sakshi you don’t know you made my day for appreciating the title because I was very fishy about the title that will it work or not. But after incoming admiration it encouraged me to write more something like that.
      Love is in a true sense loosing its worth in this era therefore I want to drive people to feel connected and cherished for this lovely feeling through my post.
      Perhaps my post can let the people remain in love instead of fear and deattachment.

      Thanks for coming and appreciating. Keep coming as I love to embrace your comment.

  17. Hello Shiwangi,

    Really a beautifully drafted article..!!! You are very right while saying that love is immortal and it does not dies a natural death..!!!
    I solely depends upon the two individuals that whether they have to live their love life or make it die..!!!

    But really I must say… You have an awesome writing skill.


    1. Hey Rohit,

      Literally nothing is better than love and nobody can steal themselves from that feeling.
      The heart with full of love for your parents, siblings, friends and for your spouse only spread goodness and positivity everywhere.
      Life is a great mistery, vast and limitless similarly our wings of love should be borderless and fearless.

      Thanks a ton for appreciating my writing skill that means a lot to me.
      Keep enriching my blog with your beautiful throw.

  18. Hey Shiwangi,

    Such a beautiful thought you shared in this post for lovers. yeah Valentin day is a fearless day for lovers to express anything what they have in their heart. I think after reading your post the persons who are in love will understand the actual love feeling.

    Thanks and keep sharing your creative and lovely thoughts

    1. Hey Rupali,

      Nice to see you here again. Love is a very amazing feeling that keeps you deeply connected with the bond you share with your loved ones. It is strong foundation that enrich not only your upper level but also your base.

      Hope you will be keep coming to me with your precious word.

  19. Heartwarming blog.Felt as if I am reading an extension of “The Secret” (Rhonda Byrne). In a world where every story-movie-music glorifies love , we tend to normally overlook a critical aspect of making a relationship work and that is respect for your partner. Everyone has his/ her unique persona and that is what makes them special, If your partner cannot respect that or creates an environment which is only self-beat fear/doubts/confusions are slowly and steadily bound to creep in marking the start of the inevitable end.

    Shiwangi you have explained it so flawlessly that to love ( valentine ) is to give that respectful environment where your partner looks to you as a friend mentor and family(all in one) and you feel all your insecurities melting away just being around him/her talking your heart out knowing in all your certainty………………………….YES I BELONG WITH YOU!!!! That is real valentine 🙂

    1. Dear friend Abhi,

      Hey you always throw your unusual feedback which is indeed dear to me immensely.
      When two heart connects they should inject all the measures in their vein to keep the sparkle alive in their bond.
      Via my post I wanted to generate the message to the masses that love should dwells in the heart safely without fear and insecurities of certain things which I maintain in my post.

      Do you remain stern with your parents, friends and siblings then why with spouse. If you can maintain decorum in all relationship then why petty happenings when it comes to your partner.
      Respect begets respect and love begets love.

      Hope you will be keep coming to lift my spirit up with your beautiful comments.

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