I am a true believer of that everyday is a day of love but the occasions such as Valentine’s day hold importance to spice up your relationship from the boring monotonous life. It can distract one from the issue in their relationship. It also rekindle passion between two people. This day gives people the chance to express their feelings to their loved ones.
Love is immortal. It never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds, it dies of weariness, of withering, of tarnishing.
Somebody is talking about marketing gimmick like shopping, buying expensive gifts, giving tips for staying fit, imparting the idea to get valentine special ringtones, also zero in on relationship. But I will talk about “Where the mind is without fear”.
You must be trying to recollect something from flashback. No, then I will tell you, remember during your academic period you must have gone through the profound poem by Rabinder Nath Tagore i.e “Where the mind is without fear”. In the poem Tagore was messaging about the freedom of the nation. He sketched the idea, where everyone within the fold of humanity is free to hold up one’s voice to be heard without having any tension of fear of oppression restricted by narrow ideas and loyalties. If Tagore can keep such a pious feeling towards humanity and love then why we 21st century people is far behind in it.
Let me justify the title
You must be thinking in valentine special post why I am drawing your attention for all that. I may have taken this title from the poem and will merge it with the feeling of love. Dear reader let me explain if you will see from my eyes there is a deep connection between the title of the post and the love. Where the mind is without fear is directly proportional to the feeling of love and the feeling of love is directly proportional to the feeling of freedom.
Word shrinks for Love
This four letter word has been explained by many experts, specialist and poet. Its very subjective and the collection of endless word is not even sufficient to explain this word. It carries different meaning for different people.
According to me, as the title suggest love is a kind of freedom is to be what you really are, that ensure you to be yourself and especially to feel, or not feel. Love is the feeling where fear has no power and the fear of freedom vanishes and not present even a iota. The mind without fear is called love.
- It is a tender, passionate affection for another person.
- A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection as for parent, child, siblings and for spouse.
I say this to you now: I love you with no beginning, no end. I love you because you have become an extra necessary organ in my body. I love you as only a girl could love a boy. Without fear. Without expectations. Wanting nothing in return, except that you allow me to keep you here in my heart, that I may always know your strength, your eyes, and your spirit that gave me freedom and let me fly.
Now, while it is certainly the time of year to be showering your loved ones not only with gifts to couples, families, friends on Valentine’s Day. But also add new dimension to your relationship.
All blood relation is generally easy going not come across with many terms and conditions. But when it comes to the couple or spouse you encounter lot of complications and end up suffering umpteen times.
Therefore Valentine’s Day is a good medium to restore the spark that you have for your partner rusted inside or the couple who know all the tricks to spice up their relation.
The key ingredients for the spouse
Friendship, Friendship and Friendship. Relationship Expert says that “Friendship is the glue that can hold a marriage together or love relation together. It is the best thing that keep the relation alive. Good relationship with your spouse is the sign of bliss from all sources. Harmony in relation creates positivity, calmness, fearlessness and gives you sense of self-sufficient and authority.
Here I want to share few points which keep your mind without fear, when in love or when in healthy relationship.
Fear of sharing anything with your spouse– The openness plays a vital role between the spouse. Generally most partner thinks that the latter should not know what they are thinking, thus escaping discussion with the feeling of fear in mind which is big dont’s. The couple should make him/her so comfortable that they should not even hide any worst matter to each other. Their compatibility should have strong volume so that they can indulge in their parents condemn even respectively(smile).
Fear of being good listener– You know half of the problem get solved regardless of the couple is right or wrong when you be a good listener. But its tough to abide when the difference of thought do not let them do the same. There are certain kind of insecurity or fear develop for listening the views of your spouse. The myth does not allow the spouse to listen the latter, if they do so the partner always trying to dominate other side. That germs of fear always kill the relationship.
Fear of being complained– Sometimes your partner become so irksome and always come with complains for the petty things is very fierce. Don’t you fear the atmosphere where you encounter your partner attacking with his harsh and poor words. Remember always people love to remain with those who stay positive in his/her action. The couple should nurture their strong bond rather than loosening the string of bond.
Fear of being hurt– When the complain become out of room talk is called hurt. Suppose your spouse try to humiliate you in front of everyone to show his/her supremacy is not acceptable at all. Try to be careful and maintain the secrecy of your partner.
The feeling of fear will deteriorate the appreciation of your partner presence. Don’t set any do’s and don’ts in the relationship. As it is not rocket science or we are not robot just a human. Our religion is not ‘bible’ and ‘quran’ but the humanity. Build a healthy bond via handling it lovingly and softly. Here my intention is not to remind the bad momentum of relationship but to educate you to implant a deep connection between the couple.
Over to you
Valentine’s Day is a day of celebration . It does not necessarily demand buying expensive gifts or roses. Lets gift a promise to each other instead of being in a state of fear, where two hearts will be free-spirited as I always say where the mind is without fear i.e in the state of love.
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